Ashanti says the graphic content of her video for "Way That I Love You" is in no way directed toward her rumored boyfriend Nelly.

The clip appears to be a dream sequence in which the singer stabs her boyfriend to death after discovering that he has cheated. When asked by People magazine if it's in reference to the St. Louis rapper, she says: "It's not!"

She explains: "I wrote that record last summer ... The song is just about real life. It's for every woman who has gone through it."       

Ashanti said she has "definitely" had experience with cheating boyfriends in the past. But she prefers the less violent approach to listening to Mary J. Blige's "Not Gonna Cry" to deal with the pain.       

"It's a rude awakening when you get used to being happy, but it's a part of life. I didn't kill the person!" she says.      

The singer has admitted to sifting through the personal property of boyfriends whom she has suspected of cheating – much like her character in the video, who finds incriminating evidence in his Sidekick phone.      

"Of course I've snooped! Before [Sidekicks] came out, I was snooping through regular cell phones, Skytel, everything. Whatever he had out, I was all in it." she told People.      

As for the current status of her relationship with Nelly? "We're really, really good friends."